Are you living life in line with your values?

Are you living life in line with your values?

Are you living life in line with your values?

In my last post Changing your life starts with a plan, one of the places I wanted to start exploring was personal values. I have come across setting personal values quite a few times in plenty of self help resources and think it’s a great place to start! 

First up, what even are personal values?

Ok so below are a few points on what I understand values to be:

The principles you stand for personally
Your beliefs and attitude to life
What is fundamentally important to you and makes you feel fulfilled

Your personal values are kinda created in the background while you go on your merry little way living life.. They can be formed from experiences you have had, family background, spiritual beliefs, stuff you have witnessed and a whole range of reasons that your mind or soul (lets not get too deep) has attached value to..

Why do I need to know this?

You know that feeling you have when you have no idea where you are going or what you are doing and life is just not living up to what you thought it would be!? (I mean you know I do… That’s why I’m here) well that feeling can happen when some of the actions you are taking in life don’t align with your values.

Ok, so if I already have values... What are they?!

There are plenty of resources around that can help you figure this out… For free! Online! I’ll link a few resources that I found super helpful at the end of this post! But here’s a quick list of how I figured out what mine are (keeping in mind, this isn’t the only way): 

  • Lists – I looked at lists of values in self help books, listened to pods and searched online lists by googling personal values.
  • Gut feeling – I then selected 10 values that resonated with me, I tried not to over think this and just went for the ones that felt right.
  • Value – I wrote the ten words on a sheet of paper and then numbered each word with a number from 1 to 10, 1 being the most important.  
  • Connect – I then connected any of the words that were kinda the same with each other e.g. Health & Energy or Relationships and Affection.
  • Reflect – I then cut the list to my top 5, this took a long time thinking each word through and looking back on choices and goals I have made in the past. 

My Values

For me, they ended up being:

  • Physical & Mental Health / Energy
  • Tolerance / Positivity
  • Relationships / Affection  ​
  • Freedom / Security

Why I chose the 5 I chose

When I look back on the goals I set for myself over the years and different choices I have made in the past and when I sat and thought about the things that make me happy and the things that make angry I could see connections to these words! I could see that I chose tolerance because when someone judges me or judges others that pisses me off! The opposite to judgement… Tolerance! Every year I set myself physical and mental health focused goals, which connects to the value of Health! I also set a lot of my goals around fun, starting new hobbies, spending more time with my friends, starting projects, taking photos, these all come back to creativity and pleasure, so on and so on…

What now?

So… now I know my values, great! But what now? Well! Now you get to make sure everything you put your focus and energy into this year fits in with and aligns to your values baby! Hell yeah!

Oh, how?… well… stick around while I try and figure that out!

In the mean time check out these cool resources that have helped me get started!

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Monthly Magic February 2018

Monthly Magic February 2018

Pink Parri Monthly Review

Well Feb it’s been a blast 🙏 Thanks to baseball games, beers and buddies! 🙏 Thanks to summer, rashies and big smiles! 🙏 Thanks to great friends, collaborations and the inspiring women who shape my world 🙏 Thanks to hunky Boyfriends, musical dates and the sweetest fun quest for roses! 🙏 Thanks to family birthday adventures, holograms and a super cute fun family! 🙏 Thanks to chicken parmies bigger than my head, the new queer eye and braces… for making ice cream almost an everyday treat instead of sometime treat! 😁😂🍦#peaceout✌ #pinkparrimonthlyreview

Every month for the last 3 years I have done a #pinkparrimonthly review on Instagram (see pic and caption above). My monthly review consists of a collage made with photos from the previous month that bring me the most joy and a little post with thanks to all of the great moments and feelings and people in my life!

This little habit is actually more about gratitude than it is about actually reviewing what happened during the month, I spend a good 10-15 min reviewing what fun things I have done the past month and what made my month great! This little ritual has always made me feel good and reminds me of all of the amazing little moments in my life. Now I am starting this blog, I thought it may be cool to add another monthly tradition, this one more about sharing, what I have spent my time on for the month! What am I reading, watching, listening to, experimenting with and who am I insta crushing on right now! 

So we may as well start with Feb!

Reading

The reason I read this book was a friend had told me about the TV show and said it was great! Now I’m the type of person that just must read the book first, so I did… And then I also watched the TV show! I think the part that creeped me out and interested me the most was Margaret Atwood’s statement about the book; “I delayed writing [The Handmaid’s Tale] for about three years after I got the idea because I felt it was too crazy, then two things happened. I started noticing that a lot of the things I thought I was more or less making up were now happening, and indeed more of them have happened since the publication of the book.”

Watching

So everyone who follows me on Facebook already knows I binged watched the new Queer eye on Netflix! It was gorgeous! I cried I laughed and I just wanted those gorgeous men to come to my house… Like now! My fave is…. all of them!! YAAASSS GURL! If you haven’t watched it yet… Go what are you waiting for!! Oh wait, read the rest of this post first though… Please…

Listening

I only started listening to The Slow Home Podcast in January, even though it actually started in 2015! Yes… I was a little slow to the trend (see what I did there). Ok enough bad puns… I really love the idea of exploring the slow home idea further and finding my own way to quit the “keeping up with Joneses” as Brooke from the podcast would say! I suggest checking it out, I have a feeling these pods may inspire a few blog posts to come! Thanks Brooke! 

Experimenting

Ok… so I have to admit that’s not my adorable habit tracker in the picture… mine is a little more messy at this stage… but hey! I’m only new at this whole habit tracking thing! I have been habit tracking since January, it can be a little tedious, but may be worth it, I think I will continue for a few more months to see. 

Crushing

Ok so I have been online crushing on Gala Darling for years! But this blog is new baby! So I thought who best to be my first blog crush announcement! Ok so firstly when I say crush, I mean I admire the fuck out of her! She is a kick ass babe who works hard for what she wants and doesn’t let anyone stand in her way (especially herself!) I was lucky enough to actually listen to her speak in person in Feb and even meet her briefly. She was as kick ass as expected and incredibly sweet.  

So there you have it! My first Monthly Review post for the blog! 

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Changing your life starts with a plan

Changing your life starts with a plan

Changing your life starts with a plan

At my day job, they like to say a goal without a plan is just a wish and even though this is a line directly off a motivational poster, that doesn’t make it less true! I have been setting goals for as long as I can remember, I still own my childhood journals which were full of goals like wearing pink fairy wings to my formal, having pink hair and meeting Drew Barrymore… And most of the goals I wrote, I actually achieved… Except for meeting Drew Barrymore… But hey! I still have time! Ok my point, my point is, this time goal setting isn’t the problem… The problem is I have no idea what I want! I mean, yeah I have a rough idea of what I think I want, I want my job to be fulfilling, I want kids, I want to live in bursts of colour (duh that’s why I called this blog that) BUT what does that even mean? 

This year, I intend to find out! I intend to change my life with a plan! 

Ok, so there is my big bold statement… Now where do I start?!

I have decided to start this project by learning a bit more about myself, I figure (meaning I have read in plenty a self help book) that to know what I really want out of life, I need to reconnect with who I am again first… To do that I am going to look inside… Firstly, inside my mind by exploring my values and learning more about the roles I play in life and how I want to show up to the people I play those roles to… Secondly, inside my home by jumping on trend and exploring this whole simplifying thing… 

This is a pic of the Kikki-K special edition of the book I am totally about to mention below… keep reading

Values

I mean what are my values!? Should that be something I just already know? Ummmm I value the colour pink… But seriously, what matters to me, what beliefs and ideas do I have and hold important in life? A great book to help you figure it all out is The Life Plan, by Shannah Kennedy, I picked up her book a few years ago and skim read it… (sorry Shannah) I mean I got the pretty version from Kikki-K and I had some real anxiety about ruining it by completing the activities and writing in the book… So I kinda just skimmed it and did a few of the activities and wrote them out in a notepad… But this time I promise Shannah I am going to complete the book start to finish (I’m totes going to do the actual writing in a notepad still though… Cause the books so gosh darn pretty)!

This is Archie, I’m his human… and I think I do pretty well in that role

Roles

Another thing I have been reading a lot about lately is defining your roles in life. Roles like; mother, business owner, daughter or friend etc etc.. Taking responsibility for the roles you play and taking a deeper look at which relationships are connected to each role and how you show up in these roles, sounds like a great way to learn more about yourself and figure out if you actually even want to play the part you have given yourself in this play called life! I want to become more intentional about the roles I currently play and align my goals and priorities around these roles.

De-cluttering books is my weakness

Simplify

I started this process last year after reading Marie Kondo’s book The Magical Art of Tidying. This book really helped me get past a few issues I had on holding on to things that I was not using and only holding on to because I felt bad! But I have realised this year that even though I have almost mastered the art of getting rid of things… I still really need to master the art of buying less… and I really need to start the process a second time and de-clutter the shizz nizz out of my house AGAIN (especially my wardrobe)!

So! There you have it the first steps to my master grand plan!

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