When I was younger I wanted to be an actor, I wanted to be an actor so much that I actually didn’t focus on anything else. I ignored the other classes at school, I scrapped by with mid-range to low grades, except in Drama and Art and left school with a pretty shocking OP score! But none of that worried me! I was so focused on being an actor that in my mind I didn’t need anything else! Now I am not really sure were that desire came from or why I thought shutting any other goal or possible path out was a good idea… (It wasn’t, it was a terrible idea!) but, I did… and when it didn’t work out (which was totally my own fault… another story for another time) it hurt, I had failed my big dream… now I didn’t really know what to do… So I stopped dreaming big and focused on something smaller. I still planned and set goals, just not the type of goals that set you up for life, I stuck to the goals that helped me feel free, I didn’t want to be tied down by a life plan or a 5 year plan or even a 3 year plan! Those were stupid and boring and I didn’t need them! I wanted to take each day as it came and focus on having fun… I traveled, I drank and I partied hard! I don’t regret the travel and I don’t regret the partying, but I do regret letting my self doubt stop me from dreaming bigger, I regret not thinking ahead about my future, I regret not getting my shit together when it comes to money and I regret settling for the status quo.
Now that I’m a little older (and I would like to say wiser… without sounding lame… which I am not sure is possible… so I put it in brackets with this disclaimer instead), I have found myself in a position where I am not where I want to be in life… seems planning ahead is not stupid… or boring… it’s pretty important! It’s taken me a few years to figure out that’s what this feeling is… but I am there, this wasn’t supposed to be my life… this wasn’t the plan… Oh hang on… that’s right here was no plan! Well no longer! It’s time to push aside fear, accept that life is full of win and fail moments and put on my big girl panties and dream big baby!
I started by sitting down and really thinking about what I want, where I want my life to be in 3 years time, 5 years time and longer! I really tried to be as creative as possible and not leave any thought or idea off the page, anything I thought I wrote down. A couple of ways I got these thoughts out of my head and on to paper was with some mind mapping and a good range of lists.
I picked a year and then created a mind map for how I want my life to look in that year! The year I chose was 2020 (can you believe that’s only 3 years time… yikes!), then I mind mapped my little heart out! Mind mapping is fun! I learnt how to do this at work, but it can really be used for any situation, not just for work purposes! They are really a great way to get a visual of the bigger picture (something I am great at in my work life and have been a little rubbish at in my personal life). I like to start with a big piece of paper and colourful pens or online in One Note adding colourful pictures and links! Here’s how I mind map:
This is just a little example of my mind map, go crazy, write everything you can think of!
A Good Range of Lists
Here’s a list of lists that I created!
Now I have my dream life written down in a few different ways, I can refer back to these lists (along with my values) when I am ready to set my next round of goals… but I’m not quite ready yet… Before that, I want to play around with vision boards! I want to create one for each area of my life (the main branches in my mind map) to help me focus on the right things throughout the year and be a visual reminder of what I want my life to feel like! As I create these I want to save (and update when needed) as story highlights on my insta @inburstsofcolour so I can look at them whenever I need a little boost of motivation!
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